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Nooks and Nests

Think back to when you were a kid and when you felt the most safe and secure…what images come to mind? Were you with a particular person…or in a certain place?

Chances are that you were tucked into a small space with someone you loved. What sensations does this memory evoke?

The world is a big place with a lot of things coming at us all the time. Sometimes we just need to close it down a little bit — like clicking the minimize button on the computer to narrow things down to a smaller focus.

high-top game tableOccasionally these recharges happen naturally, but otherwise we have to be a little intentional to have some prompts in our environments to slow down. As moms we can provide some nooks around the house to encourage our kiddos to find a place to recharge…

boy doing homework at shared family room desk

-a game table for an impromptu game or puzzle

-a seat tucked into a corner with a cozy blanket and soft pillows; some low-key reading materials

-a bedroom fort, making the most of those bunkbeds

-a desk in a corner of the family room so your child can share your space while you’re making dinner

-a pile of beanbag chairs for kids to plop into while reading or gaming

Every one of us craves a nook that is “just ours,” where we can get lost in a good book or daydream and plan. This space is not just for children. My husband’s nook is usually a favored chair in the living room where a nap can ensue as the lullaby of sports plays him to dreamland. As a mom who is always searching for a moment to be creative, I find myself “nesting” throughout our home. I leave lots of “twigs and fluff” in each room so that wherever the children are, I can settle in as well and be near. I group reading material in baskets, and I have small containers holding current projects that I can pick up at a moment’s notice. My nests are for the most part side-by-side with my kids’ nooks. However, once the day has been put to rest, and I can really call my time my own, there are nooks that ground me and restore any fraying from the day…

I have a battery-powered candle that is on a timer so that when I finally make it to my bedroom at night, I walk into the glow of this candle. It makes me smile each night when I snuggle into bed with a good book.

As you think about the personalities of your family, nooks and nests will begin to emerge on their own:

-a reading nook

-a Lego nook

-an electronic plug-in nook for all iPads, etc

I love my coffee nook with a devo for the start of my day.

I laugh as I walk by a nook I set up for my boys: an oversized chair, a small table and low lit lamp with comic books… 3 boys are surrounding this nook they were drawn to, but none of them are in the chair! Each boy is laying on the floor or under the chair...unconventional nook building.record wallWhen I think of a nook, I think of it in layers…indirect lighting, a soft place to snuggle in, sounds in the background…white noise of a home that reflects each individual settling into their spaces after being out in the world.teen boy nest

Sometimes a cozy space is outside. When we moved, one of the first things we did in the yard was hang our hammock. It became a magnet for boys seeking a daydreamy spot to gaze at clouds or squirrels chasing each other overhead. From the house often the only thing visible is the top of a head, knobby knees, or a pair of dirty feet.dreamimg

Remembering my mother’s nature nook: on warm summer nights after dinner, she would slip away to her garden patch in the backyard by herself. She would garden through dusk and come in with the fireflies for bed. It was good mental relaxation.   climatis in the backyard

As a preteen, I would sneak away barefoot to the swing outside and sway back and forth under the stars. I felt secure looking past the windows and seeing my parents unwinding with the news or a book inside our home. I liked testing the distance with a safety net still in place during those formative years of adolescence. I would dream and grow in that swaying nook.

Enjoy your nooks and nests in life. Share them with loved ones, and keep a few sacred for your heart only. Rejuvenation and Dreams come forth from such places.

 



“The Eternal God is thy refuge, and underneath are His everlasting arms.” Deuteronomy 33:27

…”for You alone, o Lord, make me dwell in safety.”  Psalm 4:8



Tuned In

Each year it seems to get here faster than ever: Thanksgiving — the unofficial kickoff of the holiday hoopla. Friends and family are already jockeying schedules to include feasting, football, Black Friday shopping and holiday light displays. We are in the thick of it, too. Each year we talk about slowing it down, but we tend to pack a lot in even when we aren’t trying.red barn in ColoradoLast year we did a mini-vacation in Colorado during Thanksgiving break. Just our little family of five…and all kinds of random winter gear stashed into our car. It took a couple of days to recover from the road trip, adjust to the altitude, and get our local bearings. We put aside electronics and went for long walks in the snow. We spent a lazy day on the couch with a stack of library books. Another day we took an adventurous snowmobile ride. Evenings unfolded easily into family game nights or classic movie marathons including “Mary Poppins,” “Big,” and “Miracle on 34th Street.” We ate pie for dinner and had a “family favorites” spread on Thanksgiving, enjoying a relaxed pace and simple expectations.walk in the snowOur boys learned to ski. We learned that having a day together while they were enjoying a last day on the slopes was The Best. #duh. The kids had tales to tell and we had the energy to really listen to their stories: Tuned in. That feeling of having our hearts aligned together as a family and being tuned in to each other…that was what we were truly thankful for…a respite from the “busy” of life and a chance to glimpse each other in a deeper way.snow on pine tree

All that other stuff happens and the to-do lists get “done enough” eventually, but it was so refreshing to feel like we had tuned in to our underlying family connections, re-centering our focus so that we could enter into the holidays with more grace. As the busy season is fast approaching, I’m wondering how we can tune in to one another again because that is the kind of tradition that I’d like to keep…oh, and pie-for-dinner, of course.



“Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into His courts with praise: be thankful unto Him and bless His name.” Psalm 100:4



Family plate

Pause, please, not Fast-Forward

red rocking chairs

“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” Mark 6:31

In the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life, sometimes we need to break away by ourselves. We need some quiet space to reflect on God’s word and re-center our busy minds, allowing our spirits to refresh. We drink in the solitude and feel our burdens ease. You may have a favorite park bench or a quiet corner at home where you can tuck in with a cup of coffee and have some quiet time. You may have to steal away a bit more stealthily if you have little ones trailing after you, capitalizing on their attention diverted to something else for a few minutes.

I like to slow down and have a few moments on my porch after a long walk, soaking in the stillness around me before the bustle on the other side of the door greets me. I may just sit and absorb the muted sounds of the neighborhood for a while. I mside porch looking outay listen to an uplifting podcast or a cheerful vox message from a close friend. A few minutes on “pause” does me a world of good. Sometimes I’m able to stretch this into devotion time and can then feel the quiet settle deeply within me, nudging my soul.


“My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” Exodus 33:14


Other times I feel like I’m playing tag with His Presence! It feels more like “catch me if you can!” all day long rather than being able to have that Quiet Time sanctuary.

Some days I’m more mindful of choosing to be IN his Presence in each thing I do, prolonging that sense of peace in my spirit. More often, though, the distractions of life interfere. These don’t even necessarily have to be problems, just daily hassles we all face. Are you weary doing the “good” things in life? We can feel worn out just by meeting the kids’ needkatie in cars day after day, keeping the household afloat, and managing our workload. In the rush of a typical day, sometimes we hope for a moment to catch a deep breath as we’re zipping around in the car between activities. We just need a pause to be able to move on to the next activity a little more intact.

If we are FEELING the fast-forward pace, our children are experiencing the rush also and probably even more intensely. What life marathon are we really training them for? How can we incorporate a little positive self-talk, a moment of silence, AND model some “balance” for our kiddos?

We’ve all heard about “attitude adjustments” and “reframing,” but what about a “soul break?” What if we had a chance for some restoration and a shift in our focus to tap back into God’s presence so we can continue on with our day a little more graciously? What if we took a few moments to reflect on our blessings rather than our obligations? I’d cherish a break like that and know my family would reap the benefits, particularly at the end of a long day. If we can’t bring back the afternoon nap for adults, then maybe we can achieve a few minutes to pause for a “soul break?” I’d like some dark chocolate with mine, please. ?

reflecting pond